How To Avoid A Painful Business Breakup

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I was sitting with a friend who had been running her own business for awhile and doing pretty well. She was paying her bills, making new connections, and by most people’s standards, she was on her way to something great.

“I just don’t know anymore,” she sighed. “Some days I wake up and I’m excited about what I’m doing, but others I’m wondering if this is really it - you know? Like is this THE THING I’m supposed to be doing with my time? It’s so hard to know.”

I’m emphatically nodded because I DID know. We all do, don’t we? Anyone who has ever been courageous enough to pursue a dream has had at least one moment where you wonder if what you’re doing is right for you.

This feeling of uncertainty isn’t just limited to pursuit of a business goal. Education, family decisions, and most notably relationships experience what culture has labeled “the seven year itch.”

Just like a great marriage, our business can sometimes fall into a ‘comfort zone’ where we may find ourselves starting to question our purpose.


Am I still passionate about this?


Am I really making a difference in my industry?


Would it matter if I quit tomorrow?


All of these questions are a symptom of no longer feeling challenged in business. In short, we get too comfortable.

But your business is too important to let yourself fall into this mindset.  You’ve spent too much time getting to this point.

Have you ever felt like you were just going through the motions of business? When we start getting too comfortable it’s harder to see the value and the shine of what we do.  Things may start to get foggy and unclear. 

So what do you do when you find yourself too deep in your own comfort zone?

Ground yourself with a clear system and proven actions. When you know what works, it’s easier to take those actions for a quick and sure win. Celebrating that success will help you find the joy in your work that put you on this path in the first place.

But where do you find the systems and actions you need?


Systems = Performance

Systems are the magic sauce, our personal success formulas for what we do and how we do it.  It’s our own unbridled way of thriving and achieving.

What systems have you created in your business that you know work?

What systems have gotten you through the tough times or the not-so-certain times?

What made you fall off the wagon and start getting too comfortable which stopped you from relying on them?

When we create (and stick to) our very own Personal Success Formulas it allows us to sustain.

Sustainability is a key factor to being successful and profitable.

WE GET BACK TO THE BASICS or we stick to what works.  We stop allowing ourselves to go down rabbit holes and chase desires that at the time ‘feels right’, but once we reflect back we actually may find ourselves feeling a bit lost.

Systems don’t allow for failure, they allow for performance.

Let’s get back to the basics and rooted in our desires.

Basic desires… what are those for you?

That’s where it starts.

Consistency comes next.

Consistency with anything is valuable, it keeps us thriving and allows us to keep doing.  Part of holding to the systems we create is to re-visit them, I like to say RECALIBRATE.

When we recalibrate (revisit, tweak, pivot) our systems it allows for our business to continue to feel light and expansive, fresh and innovative.  Like we are always on the cutting edge.  That feels challenging, refreshing and what it takes to keep us from throwing in the towel and giving up.

It keeps things from being so hard, or so boring.

Has your business fallen into the 7-year itch? Check out this easy 5-step process to creating your own performance system.

Marlo Higgins